Causes of Loneliness

QUESTION: What are the causes of loneliness?

ANSWER:

Loneliness does not always make sense, but we can explore the causes of loneliness to attempt an analysis. You can be lonely in a room full of people, at a party for instance. You may feel isolated, as if no-one understands -- your partner, friends, parents, and colleagues are not really interested in you. These negative perceptions can play heavily upon your emotions.

Understanding the causes of loneliness and recognizing them is part of the battle when you have a desperate feeling of not having anything to live for. Shifting your focus can be a next to impossible. Unfortunately, too many times reaching for a bottle of pills for release is all too easy Doctors may tell you your loneliness is just a chemical imbalance, this may be true. Have you ever considered that your loneliness might have a spiritual root?

God is always present; He is always with us. He is able to draw us from the miry pit that we are in, and stand our feet on the solid rock. We need to shift our focus from our condition and look to the God that created us for a purpose. He sent His Son Jesus Christ to restore the relationship with us and He can ease the pain of loneliness. By trusting His word and accepting His comfort, we never need to be lonely again.

We should not trust our feelings because they can be manipulated or they can manipulate us. Emotions are a good tool, but a poor master. Instead, we can trust God. You may say, "But He can't understand what I am going through." Jesus Christ came and faced rejection by those He created, He was spat at, His beard pulled from His face, He was tortured and crucified. Jesus was separated from His Father, something He had never experienced before. He overcame death itself to complete His promises to those who would turn to Him. He is now preparing a kingdom for those who accept His free gift. "He will wipe every tear from their eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away" (Revelation21:4).