Empty Nest Depression

QUESTION: How can I avoid empty nest depression?

ANSWER:

Empty nest depression is easy to relate to if you have ever stood at the window and watched as your child drove out of the driveway. It’s natural to be sad when your only child or last child leaves home. It’s the ending of a chapter in your book of life and the beginning of a chapter for your child and for you and your spouse.

When my only son moved across state, I agonized over his departure. With him being so far from home, it was a very difficult time for me.

Avoiding empty nest depression will take some work on your part and a lot of faith in God. God has promised to be with us and with our children. He is faithful and He will do it. That is not to say that there will not be challenges for both sides.

Empty Nest Depression – Practical Tips
Here are some things I did to aid in my struggle when my child moved across the country.

• The first day he was gone, I had a long talk and cry with God. I took the heartache and burden I was feeling and I asked God to carry it. I then thanked Him for relieving me of the worry I had. God is in control -- He can protect my son.
  
  
• I began each morning with a time of prayer. When I felt the sadness creeping in, I prayed and asked God to carry the burden. He knows we are human. He knows we will slip back. The thing we need to do is consistently be in communication with God.
  
  
• I took time at the end of each day to journal the best things of the day. You can do the same. Record things that brought you joy. This will cause you to look at things differently. I have found since I began this process that I see things I have never really seen before. The squeal of delight as a child picks a dandelion. Small things I had missed before because I was too busy to stop and enjoy all of God’s creation unfolding around me every day.

Each moment we have a choice. We can choose to be sad or we can choose to have joy. No one can make that choice for us. No one can make us happy; we have to make that commitment alone. We need to look for the hidden joy in every moment.